The End Of The T Saga And Problems Being T

Lol the saga has ended. T wrote back and I think she's super triggered 😂

Let's review the whole thing.

T - 2023-11-21:

Hello K,

I see that you've copied a good deal of my photographs online from my tree. While I HAVE made my tree public, it's still usually the polite thing to do - to introduce yourself FIRST (and ask permission) BEFORE copying most all of their work and all of their pictures.

T

K - 2023-11-30:

Hey T,

I must say, your neighborly gesture of pointing out my mistake was quite... interesting. While I appreciate your concern, it seems we have a generational divide here. In my experience, public information is meant to be used publicly without the need for explicit requests. It's commonly understood that such information is available for anyone to utilize. Requesting permission for something already public can be seen as an unnecessary hassle.

If you truly wish for me to refrain from using the photos or any other information that you hold the copyright to, please let me know specifically what information that is, and I'll be more than happy to remove it from my tree.

I must admit, your aggressive approach to this matter has made me feel rather unwelcome. Considering our familial relation, it is kind of disappointing. I'm not sure if I want to continue our contact beyond any legal obligations. But I am willing to give you the benefit of the doubt, and I hope you will do the same for me.

Wishing you a pleasant day, and I hope this interaction doesn't cause you too much distress. Take care!

K

T - 2023-11-30:

K,

A generational divide? I would call it a complete lack of manners and more than a bit of rudeness on your part. I would have thought that J would have taught you better manners than you have shown.

I am a bit upset that you copied so many of my photos (and likely my work) without even saying anything to me before you took them. All you would have had to say is..."hi...we're related. Do you mind if I copy your family photos to my tree?" I have always been willing to share my information - that's why I've made it public. A little politeness on your part would have gone a long way. I have not been impolite to you. All I asked for is a little courtesy on your part.

My wishes for being treated nicely before you copy all my work is not being mean or aggressive. I have helped dozens and dozens of people in my years of genealogy. You are the first person that I've EVER encountered who flagrantly copied so much of my work and took photos without even a polite "hello" first. I don't think that I'm not being unreasonable and not even slightly aggressive or impolite here.

T

K - 2023-11-30:

Hey T,

"I would have thought that J would have taught you better manners than you have shown."

My father taught me a lot. Some good, some bad, some useful, and some less so. One useful thing he taught me was that that kind of statement is absolutely unacceptable. Why you thought it was okay to project your negative feelings toward me onto him is beyond me.

No, my father did not teach me the etiquette of using Ancestry.com. How dare you claim to be polite.

K

T - 2023-12-1:

Oh...somebody can dish it...but can't take it. Boo hoo!

T - 2023-12-1:

I have no feelings about you at all, negative or positive.

T - 2023-12-1:

Go away!

Well damn that was fun overall. I don't think I'll reply because she obviously doesn't want to struggle with the mental gemnastics it takes to feel good about herself.

On another note... I went out last night to a bar with some friends and then after we went to a local pizza place. I've been riding my motorcycle so I pulled up and parked it and then was getting all my stuff off.

I had a really uneasy feeling and there were four men walking toward me presumably to just head past me and when they walked by the first one said under his breath tranny. It's not something I havn't heard before but I just pretended I hadn't heard him. My friends had just gotten out of their car but didn't notice anything weird and weren't nearby.

Once I got over to them I told them what happened and they got defensive of me and were bent on finding the guys to tell them off and I got really really triggered.

I know that the three of us girls wouldn't have a chance against these guys if they chose to fight us and that they would kill me if they had an excuse.

The rest of the night and even today I've been hyper risk aware. Anyone nearby has been a potential threat. I even sat so I had a perfect view of my surroundings when I was at the pizza place.

I've been in situtations like that before and I know how to keep myself safe but it makes it really hard to relax and just live.

I hate the environment of fear that they manufacture here. It is so unfair.

Maybe I can move someday and find a place where I feel safe.